It's a girl's job. I've got brothers, but they, it seems, aren't good enough. It needs to be her daughters helping with home care and emotional support. Not her sons. Just her daughters.
As a full-time working mum, I'm used to battling inequality on many fronts. For many of us in professional jobs, there are still regular struggles for equality. I think we're all aware that discriminatory preconceptions are still kicking about - perhaps not as blatantly as before - but they are still there, lurking under the surface both in the workplace and at home when juggling-owning-sharing the mental load and balancing jobs with family.
But this scenario is one I'd not come across before or expected: challenging the older generation's stereotypes of how - and more specifically who - they should be cared by.
I find it hard to respond to my mother's expectations without dismissing her opinions. She is, after all, nearly 80 and has challenged many a stereotype in her lifetime. This is, however, where she is at now.
When she needs physical or emotional care and when planning for her personal welfare Lasting Power of Attorney, she wants her daughters to do it. Full stop. Not her sons. Just the girls, because, as she says: "That's our job."
We are expected to bear the full emotional load, while her sons - admittedly - are expected to look after the finances as that's "a boy's job". But when it comes to emotional and physical support, they get off scot free. Our 'girls' job' means:
The resentment that's associated with this is becoming really hard to manage. My sister and I feel we are constantly failing the increasing demands for emotional support and calls for last minute visits. Just like my brothers, we both work full time too and both have kids, so it's tricky to always be there at the moment of need. I don't see why my brothers shouldn't also have to shoulder some of this load. They have emotions too, after all.
Although we care for our mum, we are getting really frustrated with her prejudices and don't know where to turn.
How can or should a family deal with this? Here's what Debbie Harris from care advice experts Chosen with Care had to say.