Top Considerations for Busy Parents Before Getting a Pet for Your Child

Pets can be wonderful companions - whether it’s a dog, cat, small furry friend, or even a tank of colourful fish. But as lovely as they are, pets also come with real responsibilities.

While your child might eagerly promise to help feed, walk, and clean up after a new pet, the reality often falls on you as the parent. That’s why it’s so important to have open, honest conversations before committing, about what pet ownership truly involves, from daily feeding and cleaning to emotional care and time together.

In some cases, getting a pet might be the right move. In others, it might not be the right time - and that’s okay.

In this article, we’ll explore how to have age-appropriate, realistic chats with your child about both possibilities, whether you’re preparing to welcome a new furry family member or explaining why it’s not quite the right fit right now.

Ready for a pet? Let’s paws and think first!

Why does your child want a pet?

Before diving into pet ownership, it’s worth asking why your child wants one. Young children often see animals as cuddly playmates - thanks to storybooks, cartoons, or a friend’s new puppy.

It’s important to gently explain that pets need daily care, attention, and time, especially dogs and cats. They’re not just for cuddles; they need walks, feeding, cleaning, vet visits, and plenty of love. Helping your child understand this early on can lead to more thoughtful conversations (and fewer surprises later).

You can start with: “Looking after a pet is a team job. We all have to help with feeding, cleaning, and playtime. Would you like to help make a daily pet plan?”

Emotional readiness

Pets experience emotions too. Some children might struggle with seeing an animal sick, scared, or even passing away. A gentle conversation about empathy, life cycles, and emotional responsibility can prepare kids for real-life challenges of pet ownership.

Ask: “Pets can get sick or scared sometimes, just like people. Are you ready to help care for them when that happens, and be patient with them?”

Picking the right pet for your busy family life

There are so many wonderful pets out there, but which one really suits your family’s routine? When you’re juggling work, school runs, and mealtimes, choosing the right pet takes a little extra thought.

Who is at home when the pet needs you?

Some pets need lots of attention during the day. If you work from home or pop back for lunch breaks, you might have time to give a dog or cat the care they need. But if everyone’s out all day, it’s worth asking: who’s really going to be around to look after them?

Does your family travel often for work or holidays? Pets can limit spontaneity, especially dogs who need regular walks and companionship.

Ask: “If we get a dog, we’ll be caring for it even when you’re in school or on vacation. Are you ready for that?”

Discussing this with your child can help them understand that a pet isn’t just fun, it’s a long-term commitment that can affect family plans.

Dogs: loyal, loving… and a little demanding

Dogs are affectionate, loyal, and full of energy, but they’re also one of the most time-consuming pets. If your child wants to help, you could create a fun pet chore chart with age-appropriate tasks like feeding, brushing, or helping tidy up after walks. It’s a great way to teach responsibility and teamwork (and can help make pet care feel like a shared adventure).

Best pets for young children

Some animals are naturally better suited to little ones. Dog breeds like Labradors and Golden Retrievers are famously family-friendly, though they do need plenty of exercise and attention.

If you’re after something a little lower-maintenance, goldfish make lovely, calming companions. Guinea pigs are another great choice - they’re sociable, gentle, and happiest when kept in pairs or small groups.

Pets that might not be the best fit

While hamsters are undeniably adorable, they’re nocturnal - meaning they sleep through the day and get active at night. They can also be a bit shy when it comes to cuddles, which can leave younger children feeling a little disappointed.

Some pets, especially cats and dogs, can trigger allergies. Talking to your child about this in a gentle way can prevent disappointment later.

What if your child wants a pet that’s not practical?

If your child has their heart set on a pet that’s not quite right for your lifestyle, consider alternatives. Try saying something like:

“We can’t get a dog, but maybe a fish would be easier to look after. Let’s explore that together!”

This keeps the conversation positive and helps your child feel involved in finding a solution.

When getting a pet isn’t an option

Letting your child down is never easy, especially when they’ve set their heart on a furry friend. But sometimes, a pet just isn’t possible right now (or even for a while). Whether it’s due to time, cost, or lifestyle, it’s important to respond with kindness and honesty.

Here are some gentle, age-appropriate ways to explain why:

• “I know you really want a pet, and that shows how caring you are. But pets need someone at home to look after them, and we’re often out at work and school. That wouldn’t be fair on the animal.”
• “You love animals so much, and that’s lovely to see. Pets need food, toys, and visits to the vet, which can cost a lot. We have to think carefully before bringing one home.”
• “Animals need lots of love and care every day. Right now, we don’t have enough time to give them everything they need to be happy.”

You can also suggest fun, animal-themed alternatives:

• “Even though we can’t have a pet at home right now, we can still spend time with animals! We could visit a pet café, go to a dog shelter, or learn more about how to care for them.”
• “We might not be able to get a pet, but we can read books about animals, watch nature shows, or even draw pictures of your favourites.”
• “Let’s make a list of pets you love and learn what they need. That way, when the time is right, we’ll be ready!”